Parenting
by ?|? on February 14th, 2013 ?|?
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Bad kids don?t necessarily equal bad parents. ?And good kids don?t necessarily equal good parents. Some parents try their best. ?They try to teach their kids respect, they have rules, and they have consequences for breaking the rules. ?And no matter how hard they try, the child doesn?t ?act right?.
Likewise, I know some very good adults and kids whose parents sucked!
I wrote a post this week,?12 Things to Do to Prevent Your Kids From Acting a Fool in Public?and I received comments like if you teach your kids respect then you won?t have to worry about anything when you leave the house. ? And, ?I received a few tweets that summed it all up for me:
12 Things to Do to Prevent Your Kids From Acting a Fool in Public? What works for you? http://t.co/xwfbzOBj @ @ @ @ @ How about parent ur child?teach respect& manners,u won?t have 2worry when u leave the house @ @ @ @ you can teach all you want, some kids are just assholes. #WeParentOurKidI also received countless comments on Facebook that alluded to the fact that if your ?child is acting up in public, then it is a reflection of your parenting skills (or lack thereof. ) ?And I am here to tell you that ?that is not always the case. ?There are parents that are working very hard to raise their kids and they are finding it very challenging, and the kids are fighting back and sometimes misbehaving. ?And it does not help that we as parents are so?judgmental?of each other.
I also ran a post this week, Don?t Give Up on Your Teens, where I admitted that, when my son was a teen, ?sometimes I felt like giving up. ?And you know what helped me, a stranger gave me some encouraging words and some hope that things would get better. It was just what I needed at that time. ?Here is a portion of one BMWK reader?s comment to that post?it?s lengthy?but heartfelt and very transparent:
?Don?t give up on your kids, but pray for them more than anything. I had struggles?.I mean?I could write a book about my struggles with my teenager. And we were a blended family so that only added to the drama. On top of that, my kid was a runner?.meaning?he ran to everyone for help?family, friends, church members, etc. So, we had everyone in our business?.accusing, judging?oh it was HORRIBLE!!! He has stayed with any and everyone that knew our family well. Relationships were destroyed ? life was horrible. But now, my son is almost 22?.a totally different person. It took a very long time but I now see that the struggle?the tears?.the sleepless nights?.they paid off. He was listening. He just didn?t want to as a teen. For me, while I agree that you should never give up on your kids, I do think that sometimes we need to recognize that they simply aren?t going to listen or do what you say unless that is what THEY want to do. My son is now doing EXACTLY what I told him to do when he was failing in high school because now it?s HIS decision?not mine. It?s hard for me because I know that alot of people think that we had no structure in our home?that we had no rules?that we let our son do what he wanted and that is why he was so rebelious. That wasn?t the case at all. Our rules were simply ignored. And unless you have dealt with that, you don?t know what it?s like???
We as parents need to encourage each other not judge each other. ?The next time you see a parent struggling, how about an encouraging word. ?You never know what it might mean to them.
Oh ? and here is a wonderful post about?judgmental?parents that I found?.enjoy!!
BMWK ? let me know your thoughts on this. ?Do you sometimes feel judged by other parents?
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Source: http://blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2013/02/bad-kids-dont-necessarily-equal-bad-parents/
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