We are soon to return to our home after living abroad for 17 years. We left when we were very young and are now going back in our 40's with 3 children. We are very excited to go back, except for one thing. FAMILY. Over the years we have had visitors etc. and of course there has been a bit of tension, over staying and some underlying jealousy (I think) of the great lives we all live here. Now that I am going back I can see that things may not be as hunky dory as I would like them to be. This is especially from my husbands family and his siblings. We have been home a couple of times this year and have had a lot of comments like, you have lived abroad and you cannot expect to have the same relationship with parents as they have, and such things like it's OK for you, you have lots of money (plus asking us for money). FYI these siblings are all professional people with decent jobs but have never got off the behind and travelled on holiday or worked abroad. They seem to be trying to marginalize us, but at the same time are all over my children like a rash because they have none of their own. That's another thing that is really annoying me. They do not want to know us, the adults, but are making plans for all the things they are going to do with my children and where they are going to take them when we go back! From my side, I expect no one to change anything they do on a day to day basis to accommodate or or welcome us back like the prodigal child. I am a very independent person and don't need anyones help or social network to get by on my day to day business. I don't expect anyone to change their plans or what they usually do for the holidays etc.
You may ask, why on earth are you going back? Well it is what we want, but this is actually putting us off a bit. However I do not see why I should be kept away from my own country or MY own family (incidentally it is not them causing the agro) because they are not being very nice. It's as if they don't want us to go back!
Any thoughts or similar experiences?
(I am based in Hong Kong)
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